Communication is an art which can make a relationship and if this factor is absent from a relationship than it can even break it. It’s one of the important aspect that we tend to neglect sometimes.
Giving a ear to your partner will save you from lot of trouble and often one forgets the words you said but remembers the way you spoke it.
Communicating is a technique and if you excel in it than you will get success in any field whether it’s your married or professional life.
Things to keep in mind
# Find the suitable time to talk
By suitable time I mean time when you both are relaxed and don’t have some other task at hand like a waggling child, important meeting etc. Set a particular time beforehand when you both have ample time to discuss about a particular topic.
# Speak less and listen more
When the times comes for actual talking don’t run around the bush and keep on nagging how difficult your married life has been, how much trouble kids give you (generally women) and all. No, keep your talk sweet, short and two way rather than keeping it one way.
# Don’t mind read
Let the other person keep his point in front of you rather than answering yourself Yes I know what you want to say. Ask him what he thinks rather than trying to read his mind. When you are talking about present problems keep your past away. Don’t drag it in your present conversation which will only mean that you haven’t forgiven the other partner and still hold a grudge inside your heart. This will increase your problem as your partner will either feel guilt or anger and he she will try to flee from the situation. This can also make you off beat from your actual discussion.
# Accept blame
When you have done something wrong like breaking a promise, saying unkind words etc than accept it and say sorry honestly. Saying sorry will not make you small in front of him but he will look up at you as an individual who dare to accept faults. Take the full responsibility of amending the situation. Prove to him and also yourself that you sincerely feel sorry
# Don’t say ‘Yes’ when you actually mean ‘No’
Saying yes even when you don’t want to do certain things will make you feel restless and than you have to do that task. Talk and let your partner know why you don’t want to do that thing, let them know when you say yes it means yes and when you say it actually means no. It will though take some time but later on your partner will look up on your this characteristic and will trust you more. One is usually afraid of hurting his or her partner and say yes so that other doesn’t feel bad but it should be not. Talking and letting other know your point will help.
# Leave when you think things moving out of your hand
While discussing if you think things are taking ugly turn and there is no way the other partner is going to listen, just leave the room or the place. Take a walk, have tea, cool yourself and than get back to the discussion. Phew! It does work.